How to Get Lost On Purpose

It happens to the best of us. We finally get a chance to explore the world, find a deal, book a trip—and end up in the same places as every other traveler.

It’s what happens when you stay where TripAdvisor tells you, eat where UrbanSpoon recommends, and Yelp your way through a vacation—just like everyone else.

Sure, you could go to Paris and never climb the Eiffel Tower, but with so little time off to play with, it’s a chance many of us aren’t willing to take. And suddenly you’re visiting a checklist instead of a place.

Make no mistake: There’s nothing wrong with wanting to see the wonders of the world or the UNESCO designated sites, but they aren’t the only reason to travel.

For every city you’ve heard about, there’s another waiting for you to discover it; but in a sea full of travel deals and Must-See lists, it can be difficult to discover the smaller destination fish.

So how do you find those spots that will wow you without risking a vacation where you come back disappointed? You prepare yourself to get lost.

Here are five tips to help you on your way:

1. Ask the neighbors.

I’ll never forget the afternoon I spent chatting with a couple in the lobby of a hotel in Jordan. They were explaining to me that as wonderful as Jordan was, we should really see Beirut, on the Mediterranean coast. “It’s just next door!” they urged.

The Lebanese capital had never been on my list—and is far from a guidebook staple—but suddenly I realized how easy it would’ve been to add it.

For every Rome, there’s a Mantua. Instead of creating a checklist based on the places that have received the most attention, seek out the destinations that seem to have been missed.

Look for the other side of the story that has already been told; it’s always there.

2. Ditch the GPS.

Your phone’s mapping apps are precise locating tools. Their job is to show you the quickest way to get from point A to point B.

Travel should never just be about “getting there.” Look at a paper map, read up on the neighborhoods—and how they relate to one another—in the destination you’re visiting, or simply chat up your hotel concierge for recommendations.

Is there a route that takes you through a bustling market, or along a quiet shore?

Give yourself permission to wander intentionally off-course.

3. Talk to strangers.

In this age where information is only a tweet away, there’s no reason to cross any destination off your list prematurely.

Find a hashtag that pinpoints your area of interest and ask away. Your fellow travelers will tell you where to go outside of Toronto. They’ll be happy to recommend a home stay in Croatia, or a guide they know well in Beijing.

Ask where the locals go for vacation, and the answers may surprise you. You’ll score insider information and the chance to create memories that aren’t formulaic or rote.

4. Hop on.

A train, subway, or city bus will work, too.

You can head straight to London’s theater district, or you can opt to get off the Tube a few stops early and explore a high street that holds its own set of memorable experiences and characters.

There is no better way to get to know some of the local vernacular then to blend in on a city commute.

5. Be open to the journey.

Not everything about getting lost will make you comfortable. That’s part of the reason you should do it.

This isn’t about being reckless or unsafe, it’s about choosing a path that isn’t so popular that it has lost its allure. This is about embracing the true idea of travel: To explore.

It can be spontaneous or it can be well planned. The key is to open yourself up to the possibility—and intention—of doing things differently.

It will only take one experience of traveling in this way to transform you. The stories and photos you’ll go home with will spur you forward to take the road less traveled again and again.

Heather Greenwood Davis is Nat Geo Travel’s resident family travel advocate, guru, and soothsayer. Follow her on Twitter @GreenwoodDavis and on Instagram @heathergd.

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Comments

  1. Cassy
    CT
    March 20, 2016, 3:30 pm

    A few more suggestions: don’t use a car. Take local buses, trams and walk. You will see so much more. Even better bike from town to town. People are amazingly helpful and friendly when you are on a bike. I’ve had people stop their cars to make sure I was not lost and OK.
    Use the tourist information office. They can help you with areas to avoid, which buses to take to get where you want to go and help with finding an hotel or B and B that is not a chain.

  2. Lynn Doerr
    Pennsylvania, U.S.
    December 24, 2015, 11:02 am

    Heather – Some good suggestions. I think the point is to abandon “checklist” travel and go with the flow a bit. Many of my best experiences were not on my list and resulted from local input. And trust your gut – if you travel much at all, you know when something isn’t right.

  3. James Luce
    Alt Empordà, Spain
    December 7, 2015, 11:09 am

    “Getting lost on purpose” is exactly the way I love to travel. The process has served me well over four continents and twenty-seven countries. However, I do have some concerns with the five suggestions presented in this article. 1) Asking random neighbors (such as a couple in the lobby) provides absolutely no assurance that you’re getting competent advice. In fact, if they are staying in a tourist-dominated hotel, they likely don’t have much experience with the open road. 2) Ditching the GPS in favor of NEW paper maps is always a good idea. But note that old maps in much of the world are simply antiques…as are some of the directions you get online. 3. Talking with strangers is fine, but again you must explore their honesty and their real knowledge before dashing off. A lot of people don’t like Americans and have fun at our expense when they can. 4. Hoping off a bus or metro randomly can indeed be great fun. Just make sure ahead of time what neighborhoods you do NOT want to hop off in. 5. Be open to the journey…exactly…but the best way to get lost on purpose is to do as much homework on the areas you are going to visit BEFORE you leave. That way you can avoid the tourist traps and yet also know where the bear traps are.